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There is some debate over which is correct: “my husband and I” or “my husband and me.”
Some people consider it more polite and formal to say “my husband and I,” which is the only expression they use. However, that is an incorrect assumption.
“My husband and I” and “my husband and me” are both expressions that have their place in the English language, depending on the context.
We say “my husband and I” when they are the subject of the sentence. We say “my husband and me” when they are the object of the sentence.
My Husband and I
“My husband and I went to a restaurant.” Can we say this?
Deal with each person individually. Is it correct to say, “I went to the restaurant?” Of course, it is! The pronoun “I” is the subject of this sentence.
Now, try saying it this way:
“My husband and me went to a restaurant.” Can we say this? No! Why not?
Again, examine each person in the sentence. Is it correct to say: “Me went to a restaurant?” No, never!
Therefore, we can’t say “my husband and me” in this sentence.
We say “my husband and I” when they are the subject of the sentence.
My Husband and Me
“The neighbours invited my husband and me to their home.” Can you say this?
Deal with each person individually. Is it correct to say, “they invited me?” Of course, it is! The pronoun “me” is called the object of the sentence.
Now, try saying it this way:
“The neighbours invited my husband and I to their home.” Can we say this? No! Why not?
Again, examine each person in the sentence. Is it correct to say: “the neighbours invited I?” No, never!
Therefore, we can never say “my husband and I” for this sentence.
Subject and Object Pronouns
There are subject pronouns and object pronouns. The subject is the one who is doing the activity of the verb. The one who is directed by or receives the activity is the object.
Subject pronouns: I, you, he, she, it, we, they
Object pronouns: Me, you, him, her, it, us, them
Check out our subject and object pronoun example sentences.
“My husband and I” acts as the subject of the verb in the sentence.
“My husband and me” acts as the verb’s object in the sentence.
Examples of Sentences With “My Husband and Me”
Here are some examples of sentences using “my husband and me”:
- The cashier gave my husband and me our change.
- Don’t forget to include my husband and me in your headcount.
- Mum gave my husband and me a ride to the city.
- The employees were happy with my husband and me when we gave them a tip.
- The landlord was angry with my husband and me when we delayed the rental fee.
- The B’n’B host made breakfast for my husband and me.
- The relatives invited my husband and me to the party.
- The waitress asked my husband and me for our order.
- Everyone likes my husband and me.
- The police officer shouted at my husband and me.
- The report was written by my husband and me.
- My son told my husband and me the terrific news that he is getting married.
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Examples of Sentences With “My Husband and I”
Here are some examples of sentences using “my husband and I”:
- After putting the children to bed, my husband and I enjoyed a glass of wine on the porch.
- My husband and I like to sleep in and have a lazy breakfast on weekends.
- My husband and I are going on a date tonight!
- I hope my husband and I can go on a romantic getaway soon.
- My husband and I decided to spend our anniversary at the beach this year.
- My husband and I didn’t go on vacation this year.
- My husband and I would love to invite some guests to dinner.
- My husband and I work in the same office.
- My husband and I need to pack up and leave early for the flight.
- My husband and I made breakfast for the visitors.
- My husband and I were told the terrific news.
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In Conclusion
So, there you have it! The next time you’re debating whether to say “my husband and I” or “my husband and me,” think about whether they are the subject or object of the sentence. That will help you decide which expression to use.
Notice how the pronoun “I” changes to “me” when it becomes the object of the sentence. This is why many people get confused about which pronoun to use!
A simple way to solve this is to split the sentence into the “me” and “I” versions and decide which sounds better. For example, “he invited I” or “he invited me.” Then you can decide whether to use the “my husband and I” or “my husband and me” in the sentence.
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